Be honest with yourself. Are you a servant? Or are you a boss?
“If you don’t build your dream, someone else will hire you to build theirs.”
– Tony Gaskins
In this podcast we will discuss what it takes to be the boss. Understanding this supplies the conviction necessary to build your dream.
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Are You a Boss?
Let me begin with a personal story.
My dad has been his own boss since I was born. People become intrigued when he tells them what he does. When someone asks him, “What do you do?” He replies, “I make things.”
Recently I recognized the wisdom behind his response.
Self Definition vs Job Definition
One of the first questions asked in a conversation with a stranger is “What do you do?”
Most of the time people automatically respond with their current job. From there, the person inquiring uses that information to establish a judgement about your status relative to their own status. Suddenly, your job definition becomes your self definition.
Doctor = Great
Manager = Good
Burger flipper = Bad
Unemployed = Terrible
These judgments are crap though. Certain doctors commit medical fraud. Certain fast food employees become world renowned comedians, like Chris Rock. You never know. Don’t mistake job definition for a true definition of self.
Define Yourself
Regardless, the answer to “What do you do?” will continue to form people’s opinion of you.
With intent, this question presents an opportunity to control how we are defined.
3 Mistakes to Avoid When Answering “What do you do?”
- Using job definition as self definition.
- Using a noun instead of a verb.
- Lacking excitement in the reply.
In Sum
When people ask my dad, “What do you do?” he uses the opportunity to define himself. He tells them, “I make things.” His response shares his passion and skill in active language. This helps bring excitement and interest to the conversation, unlike a lifeless role in another person’s dream. Subtle differences drastically changed the way people perceive him and helped him be a boss. Now, it’s your turn.
Closing Comments
1. I am excited to announce my first book is coming soon!
2. I, like you, am exploring my own true self throughout the Great Adventure. The Mystery of Life maintains my sense of wonder.
3. If you have an idea for a podcast you would like to hear or a question you want answered in an upcoming episode,
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Life’s Most Dangerous Question: What Do You Do?